64 Positive Things to Say to Kids

Encouraging Words for Kids

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In the years since my grandmother has been gone, I am still  inspired to notice the good things in life when I remember the way she would pause at those good moments and say, “This, now this is good.” To this day I can hear my mother encouraging me when I try new things. Her voice of confidence from my childhood continues to give me confidence now.

And eighteen years after my dad died, I can still hear him, when I get too serious saying, “Lighten up, Lissy!”  In moments of complete self doubt and embarrassment, I still bolster myself by thinking of him singing, “Oops, you made a mistake, and you’re beautiful to me.”

All of these words of encouragement from my parents and grandparents have stayed with me. What do you say that will stay with your kids the rest of their lives?

64 Ways to Encourage Kids Certainly words can become meaningless when they aren’t followed with action, but nonetheless, words  have great power. You can choose to add more positive ones to your days. Coming up with a few encouraging words for kids or positive phrases to say regulalry tips the scales towards the kindness you want your kids to imitate. You never know the words of encouragement from you that your kids will carry with them for years.

64 Positive Things to Say to Kids

You can download a printable of 64 Positive Things to Say to Kids here! May this list inspire you to turn to your child and say something like:

  1. You are loved
  2. You make me smile
  3. I think about you when we’re apart.
  4. My world is better with you in it.
  5. I will do my best to keep you safe.
  6. Sometimes I will say no.
  7. I have faith in you.
  8. I know you can handle it.
  9. You are creative.
  10. Trust your instincts.
  11. Your ideas are worthwhile.
  12. You are capable.
  13. You are deserving.
  14. You are strong.
  15. You can say no.
  16. Your choices matter.
  17. You make a difference.
  18. Your words are powerful.
  19. Your actions are powerful.
  20. Your emotions may be powerful.
  21. And you can still choose your actions.
  22. You are more than your emotions.
  23. You are a good friend.
  24. You are kind.
  25. You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect.
  26. Someone else’s poor behavior is not an excuse for your own.
  27. You are imperfect.
  28. So am I.
  29. You can change your mind.
  30. You can learn from your mistakes.
  31. You can ask for help.
  32. You are learning.
  33. You are growing.
  34. Growing is hard work.
  35. I believe you.
  36. I believe in you.
  37. You are valuable.
  38. You are interesting.
  39. You are beautiful.
  40. When you make a mistake you are still beautiful.
  41. Your body is your own.
  42. You have say over your body.
  43. You are important.
  44. Your ideas matter.
  45. You are able to do work that matters.
  46. I see you working and learning every day.
  47. You make a difference in my life.
  48. I am curious what you think.
  49. How did you do that?
  50. Your ideas are interesting.
  51. You’ve made me think of things in a completely new way.
  52. I’m excited to see what you do.
  53. Thanks for helping me.
  54. Thank you for contributing to our family.
  55. I enjoy your company.
  56. It’s fun to do things with you.
  57. I’m glad you’re here.
  58. I’m happy to talk with you.
  59. I’m ready to listen.
  60. I’m listening.
  61. I’m proud of you.
  62. I’m grateful you’re in my life.
  63. You make me smile.
  64. I love you.

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Sometimes the positive phrases might sound hokey, or when you say them over and over you might wonder if they’re losing power, but here’s how I think about that: I hope that repetition means that some of them stick.

Years from now, when my children face a difficult job interview, a challenging conversation with their spouse or a day that seems like all of the ends are unraveling, my hope is that they’ll remember hearing me encouraging them, and their internal voice will say, “I have faith in you. I’m sure you can handle it. You are loved.”

What phrases do you say each day?  Which ones do you want them to remember?

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122 Comments

  1. Beverley Rademeyer Moreland says

    My 5 and 3 year old will always say “but luckily you still love us even when we are naughty”. I made a rhyme “I love you when you’re naughty, I love you when you’re good, I’ll love you when I shouldn’t, I’ll love you when I should”. They always say it

  2. Hannah Dearnley says

    I always say to my little girl, “I love you SOOO much”.
    To which she replies, “I love you TOOOO much mummy”.

  3. Lisa Weeks says

    I love you more than all the fishes in the sea, more than all the birdys in the sky and more than all the stars in the night.

  4. Jacqueline Foley Kochanowicz says

    I’m proud to be your mom.
    &
    My life is better because you are in it.

  5. SamanthaHeidecker says

    We high five all the time, it makes them feel so good. At bedtime I whisper during cuddle time, “You are my special” and whrn we’re having a bad day I always reiterate how they are special to me even though we’ve not had a good morning etc. Etc.

  6. Cindy Bobot Zbikowski says

    When my son & our daughter in law were pregnant with their 1st child, (they were living with us) I over heard them talking one day. He was asking her to get something for him, she asked him what the magic word was & he responded “Now” with a grin on his face. It was then that I came up with the standing family “rule” that when you ask someone for something you have to always include “please, thank you and I love you”. The person being asked CAN’T refuse if asked in this manner. They both looked at me like I was crazy but I explained to them if they got into the habit of doing this before the baby was born, then it would be routine and the baby would learn to say the same. It was funny how it caught on to almost everyone in the family & even close friends. Now my grandson is 3 1/2 & when he asks for something and you remind him to say the magic word, he promptly days “please thank you and I love you” . Just wanted to share…..

  7. Raquelichi says

    Thank you so much, Lissy! Very proud of you it´ll be your father, anywhere he´s lovefully looking at you, and vice versa.

  8. Lothlorien Van Ness says

    #25You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect

  9. Creative With Kids says

    Yes, I liked the way it worked that way with the repetition. We spend a lot of time correcting our kids, and sometimes it’s really worth letting them know they make us happy.

  10. nancy says

    I tell them I am so happy I get to be your Mommy. And they both are my favorite kids in the whole universe.

  11. Kerry Penman Gaines says

    Here’s ours for the week: you can and will earn back my trust.

  12. Creative With Kids says

    Kerry Penman Gaines – ooh, that sounds like a tough one. Great positive phrase to come out of it though.

  13. Lothlorien Van Ness says

    @kerrypenmangaines I am adding that to my list of phrases, such a powerful reminder that all is not lost and that they are loved and valued inspite of their mistakes even when it costs them someones trust. Thank you for sharing that!

  14. purplewings says

    That’s wonderful.  In my day, people didn’t say those good things to their children, at least not in the home I grew up in.  I felt all that love for my sons, but am not sure how often I expressed it verbally.  Sometimes it could make the difference between a kid giving up or growing up.

  15. Sunshine and Hurricanes says

    These are great ideas and I, like you, also run scripts in my head and try to be intentional with building my kiddos up. Thanks for the post!

  16. Lauren says

    “thanks, helper!” or “what a tidy guy!” or “tell me!”. My job is to keep you safe and loved. That’s your choice to make. You give good hugs.

  17. fragilebutalive says

    It is so true that we carry our parents’ words the rest of our lives. I was unfortunately told things like “you were always a little bit fat”, “your foot was retarded,you walked funny growing up”, “crying won’t help”, etc etc. I still struffle every day with self worth issues,despite being actually quite pretty I suppose. Love your kids folks. Mt mom is a narcissist.

  18. GaronHano says

    Quite a few adults need to hear that one as well.  Is your name really Lothlorien?

  19. Star Bright says

    I normally say, “What a beautiful day!” My daughter has repeated this since.

  20. ycook1981 says

    My daughter is 12, my son is 3. To this day i have planted kindness into my children by always being polite and always say please, thank you, excusse me and im sorry. People are amazed when my children respond in such manner and i always hear “uou dont see or hear children say such things. What wonderful children you have, your doing a good job mom.” See i grew up in the south and maners are a big deal, and it can make all of a difference.
    I try my hardest to make sure my children know the meaning of kindness and like my grandfather always said “Just holding the door open, saying please and thank you and saying im sorry can make a persons day.” Throughout the years i have added to my grandfathers words to me while growing up, just a simple hug and the words i love you and your the best can make someones bad day into a good day. I may not be the best with words but my actions speak through my children.
    For my new year resolution i am going to post these powerful phrases on my wall and make it a point to say these to my children everyday. Who knows maybe it will also change my outlook and make ne more posative as well. We all could use pisative words in our everyday life.
    Thank you for your post, it has truly made me realize that i should say things like that more often. Thank you so much.

  21. says

    I work with women to remove the negative scripts in their head and replace with positive words such as these. It is never too late to start using them on ourselves, for whilst we are not responsible for the programming we have as children we are definitely in control of the words we choose to use on ourselves and with our children as adults and have the power to change a negative cycle. Thanks for a lovely post. I hope parents are inspired to use the words, because they will 100% make a difference to their children’s lives.

  22. says

    I work with women to remove the negative scripts in their head and replace with positive words such as these. It is never too late to start using them on ourselves, for whilst we are not responsible for the programming we have as children we are definitely in control of the words we choose to use on ourselves and with our children as adults and have the power to change a negative cycle. Thanks for a lovely post. I hope parents are inspired to use the words, because they will 100% make a difference to their children’s lives.

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  24. sarahwaldin says

    @Sam So do I, and I agree that this is where it begins … with the messages from parents and teachers. So important to  get these messages in play as early as possible, and keep them in play long after we think they’ve heard enough.

  25. Keri Shelton Roland says

    Amy Hoeft Shannon were you the one that recently posted about finding more ways to tell your kids “good job”? This made me think of that post I saw.

  26. Funnermother: Let's get fun says

    totally sharing. This is another great print-and-hang, thanks!

  27. Michelle says

    My son and I tell eachother how much we like eachother. For him, it means something.

  28. David Chiola says

    “NO” should be on that list. That’s why we have so many brats. Too many Parents are afraid to use that word.

      • David Chiola says

        “Sometimes I will say no” is not “no”. It’s crap like this is why we have so many monsters on our hands. Be tougher on kids, not softer.

        • says

          Oh for goodness sake. It’s a blog post. It’s meant to be read – so when I was writing it I wanted to put “no” on the list as obviously it’s critical that parents say no. However, in the flow of reading the list it would have sounded really odd to just have the word no. And either way, referring to kids as brats and monsters does no good in understanding their behavior, nor your place in it.

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    We hope you enjoy the week on your retreat !!! We are praying that you are truly blessed!!!

    Love & Prayers,

    Teresa & Jerry

  30. Thulani says

    Wat can I do to prevent my girfriend from stoping to spoil her child,cos she’s not mine bt I love both of dem bt she is a spoilbrat?

  31. Johanna says

    WOW! I found this post after a Google search. It brought me to tears. Thank you! It was exactly what I was looking for

  32. Michaela says

    My son is only 6 month and every morning I tell him I love him more than anything in the world….and at bed time I always tell him he is beautiful smart and important and loved x

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  34. Kim says

    I love this list, and will be sharing it! Thank you!

    As I’m tucking my kids in at night, I tell each of them, “I love you always and forever no matter what. “. I have done this every night since they were little, and they are 12 and 7.

  35. Caroline Altmann says

    Thank you! Love your tag line too–looking for joy in ordinary chaos. I can easily get triggered by my kids but when I am kind, compassionate and considerate (starting with myself) my kids do so much better (ie. are encouraged) and I get the benefits. And for the folks who think we are being too soft on our kids: Setting limits with our kids can be done respectfully. (Even when parents get mad. Yes, yes, we are human, after all.) The benefits are that you foster a wholesome connection. And, its magic when the kid generates (out of volition, not fear) its own limits. When I make mistakes, I’d rather be told straight rather than be shamed, chewed out or scolded. I’m open to making amends rather than in a defensive mode.

  36. cheryl aileen says

    I tell my fifteen year old daughter, I love you and I really like you too.
    As all parents love there offspring. (from my experience). But i really like my daughter too, the person she is becoming.

  37. says

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  38. Elena says

    I have noticed that when I put my kids on time out or take away a toy or anything like that, the only thing they care about is knowing that I still love them. Despite their bad behavior they want to know that they r still loved. So when we’ve had a bad day I always take them in my arms and reassure them with these words “I love you soo much. There is NOTHING you can do that will ever make me stop loving you, never! I will always love you.” Of course this leads to other words of love on both sides but I have found that this reassurance of love goes a long way.
    Thanks for your blog….love it!

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