Resources – To Deal With Anger

by Alissa Marquess on November 26, 2012

a safe spaceStop the Yelling!

If you’d like to find way to deal with anger and stop yelling at your kids, these resources are for you.  You are not alone – many of us struggle to deal with anger as we never learned healthy ways to handle this strong emotion.

I hope the books and links on this page help you find the tools you need to bring some more peace to your home.  I will update this page as I learn more about how to deal with anger.  Let me know if there is a resource you think belongs here.

 

Creative With Kids works to provide a safe space to talk about anger and parenting.  Thank you for being respectful in your comments.

Stop the Yelling! Resource list for dealing with parenting anger and finding positive parenting tools

Joyful Parenting Newsletter – This is the email subscription to Creative With Kids Receive links to simple connection ideas and parenting inspiration.  You’ll also get notification of free positive parenting webinars hosted by CWK and Positive Parenting Solutions each quarter.

The Orange Rhino – Fantastic site all about a mom’s journey to stop yelling.  Lots of alternatives to yelling, help for how to deal with anger.

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Stop Yelling Webinars – Free hour long webinar that you watch on your tablet or computer and you can ask questions in the text chat.

The next free parenting webinars I am hosting with Amy McCready of Positive Parenting Solutions:

TBD, Fall 2014

  • 1pm EDT
  • 9pm EDT

Register at this link to reserve a spot.  You’ll receive further instructions from them by email.

What can you do to deal with anger in the moment?

How can you prevent yelling?

  • Learn Your Anger Triggers - We often forget that simple things can cause us background stress.  Is this why you’re yelling?
  • The Stop Yelling Challenge – This is a support group run by Amanda of the site Dirt and Boogers.  Join and find a community of kind, non-judgmental folks with a common goal.

Books on  dealing with anger and positive parenting

Below I’ve listed a handful of my favorite books.  To find a more complete listing including books on parenting an intense child, sibling rivalry and more go to:

Positive Guidance eBook
The back of this book has sections which list behaviors and how to respond to them.  Make sure to get the updated edition in which they no longer support spanking. Gives you the framework to understand your child’s most frustrating behaviors and learn how to help them be successful and fun to live with instead. An entire parenting course in a book – Ten Tools for positive guidance that will help you find solutions for any parenting challenges. Since I’ve started using Amy’s tools my kids are fighting less and I’m feeling more empowered and much less angry.  She also has a video course I highly recommend.
18 comments
Elena Malkova
Elena Malkova

Thank you very much for a very useful article and sharing your Wisdom with us!




dr.ensaf
dr.ensaf

I need ur help in dealing with my kids iam going be crazy iam always screaming.

Tammy
Tammy

I highly recommend Loving your Kids on Purpose by Danny Silk

Lucy
Lucy

Managing feelings is so important! Take a peek at our website www.gottamotto.com we are all about providing kids with tools on how to manage feelings. Our Mottos flip flop allows for kids to snap customs charms in and out of flip flop, allowing kids to express how they feel each day. Kids are able to trade, wear & collect charms. The importance here is encouraging parents, caregivers and educators tools to encourage communication. We believe it's ok to have feelings but it's important that you manage them in a positive way:)

chicklegirl
chicklegirl

Oh, and a book that has changed how I parent my super-intense kids (and how I view my own temper) is "The Explosive Child," by Ross W. Greene. He posits the revolutionary idea that children (and often adults) who lose their tempers do so not because they want to be angry or manipulative, but because they don't have the skills to problem-solve (whether because of developmental issues, learning disabilities, or personality) and so they melt down. It's a great read, and his strategy for sorting priorities into "baskets" is worth the price of the book many times over.

chicklegirl
chicklegirl

You definitely need to add http://theorangerhino.com/ to your list. Nothing else, not even the best of intentions, helped me until I found this website, and it has literally changed my (and my childrens') life. Orange Rhino blogs about her own challenge to stop yelling and has created a supportive and compassionate community on Facebook and a forum on her website. Amazing stuff, and it truly has helped me.

Mothering From Scratch
Mothering From Scratch

{Kathy} Thank you for this list! May I also recommend Julie Barhill's book, She's Gonna Blow. It has been a resource that I pass on often to moms who are struggling in this area.

Debra
Debra

Haven't checked all the links yet, but I'm really hoping some of them offer advice for single parents. It's not so easy to give yourself time out when there's no one else to leave them with.

The Monko
The Monko

what a great post and some really good links. I'd love you to consider linking this to the Sunday Parenting Party - we are trying to build the link as a parenting resource and posts like this are just great for it.

MJ
MJ

I highly recommend the older book - "Children the Challenge". It is written so you can look up different situations, and understand the "hows and whys" of many challenging issues for kids of different ages. I used it on my kids, and found it very helpful. They are all adults now - and we all survived!! The writing style is easy reading, to the point, and explains how the parent can understand what is Really going on. Please do not make my name public. Thank You.

Alissa Marquess
Alissa Marquess

I think we all get stuck in what I call the parenting "Dark Pit" from time to time. You are not alone and you won't solve everything in one day, just start taking a LOT of deep breaths and working on it bit by bit. Every step you take on this journey to learn to deal with anger in a healthy way is a worthwhile step. All my best, Alissa

Alissa Marquess
Alissa Marquess

I've been meaning to add the Orange Rhino to my no more yelling resources! Her blog is wonderful, honest and supportive. And I love that she gives concrete helpful tips on things to do besides yelling. Thanks for reminding me; I will certainly add it!

jen
jen

hi (Kathy) can you tell me more about this She's gonna blow book...I feel like this could be for me. I am so quick to anger lately and just BLOW! :) thanks all for the help --love the blog just found it today!!! Jen

Vee
Vee

I completely agree Debra. My son is 10 and I've been a single mom for 8 years now and I'm reaching my breaking point. Don't know what to do anymore. I find myself yelling often. Desperately want to give up, but i know that i love my son too much to do that. But what else.... Have you found any solutions? I'm crossing my fingers that something here helps!

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