Resources – To Stop the Yelling

by Alissa Marquess on November 26, 2012

Stop the Yelling!

If you’d like to stop yelling at your kids, these resources are for you.  You are not alone – many of us struggle with the yelling habit.

I hope the books and links on this page help you find the tools you need to bring some more peace to your home.  I will update this page as I find and review good books and classes.  Let me know if there is a resource you think belongs here.

Stop the Yelling! Resource list for dealing with parenting anger and finding positive parenting tools

Joyful Parenting Newsletter – This is the email subscription to Creative With Kids Receive links to simple connection ideas and parenting inspiration.  You’ll also get notification of free positive parenting webinars hosted by CWK and Positive Parenting Solutions each quarter.

The Orange Rhino – Fantastic site all about a mom’s journey to stop yelling.  Lots of alternatives to yelling.

What can you do to stop yelling in the moment?

How can you prevent yelling?

  • Learn Your Anger Triggers - We often forget that simple things can cause us background stress.  Is this why you’re yelling?

Books

Below I’ve listed a handful of my favorite books.  To find a more complete listing including books on parenting an intense child, sibling rivalry and more go to:

Positive Guidance eBook
The back of this book has sections which list behaviors and how to respond to them.  Make sure to get the updated edition in which they no longer support spanking. Gives you the framework to understand your child’s most frustrating behaviors and learn how to help them be successful and fun to live with instead. An entire parenting course in a book – Ten Tools for positive guidance that will help you find solutions for any parenting challenges. Since I’ve started using Amy’s tools my kids are fighting less and I’m feeling more empowered and much less angry.  She also has a video course I highly recommend.

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MJ November 28, 2012 at 12:24 am

I highly recommend the older book – “Children the Challenge”.
It is written so you can look up different situations, and understand the “hows and whys” of many challenging issues for kids of different ages. I used it on my kids, and found it very helpful. They are all adults now – and we all survived!!
The writing style is easy reading, to the point, and explains how the parent can understand what is Really going on.

Please do not make my name public.
Thank You.

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The Monko December 10, 2012 at 1:50 pm

what a great post and some really good links. I’d love you to consider linking this to the Sunday Parenting Party – we are trying to build the link as a parenting resource and posts like this are just great for it.

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Debra February 6, 2013 at 4:12 am

Haven’t checked all the links yet, but I’m really hoping some of them offer advice for single parents. It’s not so easy to give yourself time out when there’s no one else to leave them with.

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Mothering From Scratch June 7, 2013 at 3:56 am

{Kathy} Thank you for this list! May I also recommend Julie Barhill’s book, She’s Gonna Blow. It has been a resource that I pass on often to moms who are struggling in this area.

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jen February 13, 2014 at 1:09 pm

hi (Kathy) can you tell me more about this She’s gonna blow book…I feel like this could be for me. I am so quick to anger lately and just BLOW! :) thanks all for the help –love the blog just found it today!!!
Jen

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chicklegirl July 22, 2013 at 2:39 pm

You definitely need to add http://theorangerhino.com/ to your list. Nothing else, not even the best of intentions, helped me until I found this website, and it has literally changed my (and my childrens’) life. Orange Rhino blogs about her own challenge to stop yelling and has created a supportive and compassionate community on Facebook and a forum on her website. Amazing stuff, and it truly has helped me.

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Alissa Marquess July 30, 2013 at 11:26 am

I’ve been meaning to add the Orange Rhino to my no more yelling resources! Her blog is wonderful, honest and supportive. And I love that she gives concrete helpful tips on things to do besides yelling. Thanks for reminding me; I will certainly add it!

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chicklegirl July 22, 2013 at 2:44 pm

Oh, and a book that has changed how I parent my super-intense kids (and how I view my own temper) is “The Explosive Child,” by Ross W. Greene. He posits the revolutionary idea that children (and often adults) who lose their tempers do so not because they want to be angry or manipulative, but because they don’t have the skills to problem-solve (whether because of developmental issues, learning disabilities, or personality) and so they melt down. It’s a great read, and his strategy for sorting priorities into “baskets” is worth the price of the book many times over.

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Alissa Marquess July 30, 2013 at 11:25 am

Yes, great recommendation, thank you!

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