Toddlers Won’t Wait for You to Have the Perfect Time to Connect

by Alissa Marquess on May 22, 2012

Let it be Simple.

Allow yourself to enjoy simple activities.

Rather than a thing to do with toddlers, today I bring you something NOT to do and something to allow yourself.

As a mom to three kids, if there’s one thing I know about toddlerhood, it’s that it’s REALLY a short period of time.  I get it, many parts of parenting a toddler are exhausting and can make you feel like you’re going nuts, but believe me, it will be done soon.  Your child will change and grow, and with those changes come other fun and new developments, but this quirky, cute, funny little toddler is who’s here right now.

Today I challenge you to look at your toddler and see ALL the wonderful things about this stage and ask yourself how you’re going to find a way to enjoy them before this part of childhood is gone.

You know that wobbly little walk you love?  Or the way your toddler gets engrossed in something so mundane like pouring water from one cup to another?  Or how about the whole-body joy your toddler shows when you play peek-a-boo?  That’s toddlerhood and it won’t last.  Your four year old will still be adorable, but they won’t do these things!

Listen to today’s message about connecting with toddlers in this brief video:

OK- and if you, like many of us, find that you get a little bored when doing these simple activities with your toddler, I have  some suggestions on my post:  A Few Secrets About Playing with Toddlers.

I hope you let this be the day that you start a habit of connecting with your toddler and letting perfection wait indefinitely!

{ 25 comments… read them below or add one }

Jen May 22, 2012 at 11:49 am

Great video! how interesting it is to hear the voice that goes along with the words! Great message too, we all need to relax and not worry about the mess…just play!


Jackie Higgins May 22, 2012 at 11:53 am

Great message. I need that reminder too! You are right, I’ll never find the “perfect” method for cleaning my house or the most fun activity on the planet so I need to just chill out ;)
Also, I think it’s important to have a conversation with your spouse. My husband is a neat freak and I often thought he was upset because the house is never fully clean when he gets home. If I clean it at 10 am, there might be one clean room by 4 pm. (And that’s on a good day). I thought he was upset and thinking I wasn’t doing anything. He wasn’t. Once we talked it through, I realized he was ok with our house not being perfect as well. That gave me the freedom to enjoy my kids more during the day.


Jill @ A Mom With A Lesson Plan May 22, 2012 at 12:13 pm

AWESOME!!!! What a great post and video.


Kristin May 22, 2012 at 12:25 pm

Good message! I’m obsessed with trying to pinpoint those moments and capture them on video. My favorite is that little jump in my toddler’s step when he runs. :)


Christina May 22, 2012 at 12:58 pm

Here are my thoughts on being present in the moment with your kids….


amber May 22, 2012 at 1:02 pm

Love the video. You are right toddler stage does not last long and forget the high school years. I can’t believe how fast time goes when you are a MOM.


Kim @ Little Stories May 22, 2012 at 2:25 pm

Yay! Love it!


Susan Case May 22, 2012 at 2:25 pm

This is wonderful!


Margaret@growingplay May 22, 2012 at 6:16 pm

So true. I have noticed that I am appreciating my little ones toddler years more than my previous children only because I realize it goes by so fast. Our children are 12,10,7,6 and 19 months. The 19 month old is so lucky because everyday my husband and myself truly live in the moment with her. Don’t get me wrong my patience gets thin sometimes but in general we just go with the flow because we know it passes by too quickly.


The Iowa Farmer's Wife May 22, 2012 at 8:24 pm

Alissa can I just say you are adorable! And what an awesome video and message. Thank you for sharing. I make laundry a fun time for my toddler and me! She loves to sort her clothes, match socks and play in the basket while I sit with her and fold the rest. It’s a win win. :) And it’s simple. :) Thanks for this post.


Joyce @Childhood Beckons May 22, 2012 at 11:49 pm

I absolutely love this message and video! Great job!


Marnie @ Carrots are Orange May 23, 2012 at 12:02 am

LOVELY post! Teary eyed…!! Thank you!


Alissa Marquess May 23, 2012 at 7:34 am

Thanks so much.


sara May 23, 2012 at 3:17 am

A real and authentic post – the basic nuts and bolts of parenthood – thank you.


Tracey Hutchings May 23, 2012 at 4:22 am

Such a great post, thank you! That is a perfect way to explain it. :)


Tina May 23, 2012 at 4:42 am

Thank you for this post – I needed to hear that!


Alissa Marquess May 23, 2012 at 7:36 am

I’m glad it was what you needed to hear Tina, toddlerhood is a really intense time in parenting and I’m always having to remind myself that it’s going to change again and this is just temporary :)


Angelique Felix May 23, 2012 at 10:13 am

good on you!
Live simple and be easy <3


Eve Sam May 30, 2012 at 1:25 pm

thank you so much for this! I get upset with myself today for yelling and stopping what my toddler to explore. Being a hot temper myself I feel very angry with myself for not able to control my action. Your post has just push me to go further and remind myself my daily goal. I will remember that toddlerhood is very short and enjoy in the present. THANK YOU AGAIN!


tacy June 2, 2012 at 3:26 am

love this! so true! thanks for sharing your thoughts.


Cindy June 26, 2012 at 9:04 pm

I have to say this video actually made me cry like a baby. What excellent advice. Thank you for the reminder, it really did me good.


Alissa Marquess June 28, 2012 at 10:52 am

Thanks Cindy. Parenting toddlers is so demanding, but it’s a short stage in the big picture and there really are so many sweet things about it. We just have to be gentle with ourselves because it IS exhausting.


Nataliya July 31, 2012 at 12:07 am

I just read these words and saw the video and I cant tell you how much I needed to hear this today, as today was one of ‘those’ days! Thank you so much for the inspiration!


Rosalie August 18, 2012 at 2:39 pm

Thanks you for your video and all your precious post!!
I’m french,i have 2girls 18 months and 4years!Sometimes,as today,a looong hot day,
I feel very tired and nervous with my kids..your video remindse what’s the most important!!
thanks a looot!


Heather October 13, 2012 at 4:51 pm

Thank you so much for this video and your reminder. I get overwhelmed seeing so many activities I want to try with my son on Pinterest, only to feel like a terrible mom if I don’t do something “fun and creative”. I worked as a child care provider, preschool teacher, and then behavioral therapist for a total of 15 years before I had my son. I think because of my background of planning activities I get down on myself if I don’t do new and different things, rather than just enjoy the simple activities that my son and I love doing with each other.


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